Consent Culture

EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE!

 

We are glad that you have decided to join our private Online Community and/or members-only Social Club for individuals interested in the Lifestyle with the intention of meeting others with whom they share an association, common interests, mutual purpose and/or similar way of life in a social setting without any pressure or obligations.

 

In order to attend any of our Events, you MUST have a current Social Club membership and be in Good Standing. MEMBERS MUST BE AT LEAST 21 YEARS OF AGE and have a valid government-issued ID.

 

By becoming a member you represent and warrant that you are least 21 years of age, and have the right, authority and capacity to enter into this agreement and to abide by all of its terms and conditions under your own freewill.

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We DO NOT accept responsibility for accidents, injury or loss suffered while attending our Micro LS Signature Events. By entering the event venue you agree that you are doing so at your own risk. You hereby waive any and all claims whatsoever that you may have or hereafter have against the organizers, volunteer staff members, partners, sponsors and vendors. You hereby release and forever discharge the organizers from all claims, demands, damages, actions or cause of actions arising or to arise by reason of your attendance at any Event. You agree that this waiver and release shall extend to the organizers, agents, successors and assigns and is binding upon me and my heirs, executors, legal representatives, successors and assigns any other persons I have brought with me.

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By "Joining" and/or "Registering" you represent and warrant the following Terms & Conditions:

 

You are aware and understand the adult nature of our Online Community, Social Club and Micro LS Signature Events, and WILL NOT be offended in any way by the activities that other members may be engaging in.

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You have read and understand the Lifestyle Socials Code of Conduct and Rules of Personal Behavior.

 

You agree to abide by the terms & conditions associated with joining our Online Community, joining our Social Club and attending our Micro LS Signature Events at all times, which include:

 

Lifestyle Socials INTENTIONALLY cultivates Consent Culture within our private Online Community and members-only Socials Club, and at our private Micro LS Signature Events by educating our members and guests about Consent.

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• Lifestyle Socials has STRICTLY ENFORCED Rules of Personal Behavior.

• Lifestyle Socials has a STRICTLY ENFORCED Code of Conduct.

• Lifestyle Socials BLACKLISTS known sexual predators who attempt to prey upon our Online Community members, Social Club members and Micro LS Signature Event Registered Guests.

 

Our Micro LS Signature Event Registered Guests trust us to provide a SAFE SPACE for their sexual expression. We do that by ensuring that at the very least, EVERY INDIVIDUAL we admit to our events:

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• WILL conduct themselves in accordance with our Code of Conduct and Rules of Personal Behavior;

• agrees NOT to behave in a manner that is disruptive to others' enjoyment;

• understands that they ARE NOT permitted to open closed doors;

• agrees to refrain from engaging in any inappropriate touching or non-consensual touching;

• comprehends that they ARE required to ask for and receive consent before touching another person, or joining a session/scene in progress;

• agrees to refrain from engaging in any ‘pushy’ behavior; and

• respects that "NO ALWAYS MEANS NO"!

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CONSENT

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Consent is a clear and unambiguous agreement, expressed outwardly through mutually understandable words or actions, to engage in a particular activity.

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CONSENT CULTURE

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• Consent Consent is defined as a society, community or environment in which asking for consent and respecting the person's response, even if it isn't the response you had hoped for, is normalized and condoned in popular culture.

• Consent Consent means listening to each other, respecting each other, and bringing mindfulness to all of our interactions.

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PRACTICING CONSENT​

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Practicing Consent is an important step in creating a culture and community we want to live in.

 

• A culture and community in which people are respected and have autonomy, choice, and agency to decide for themselves what is best for them.

• A culture and community that believes that a person of sound mind and body is always the best judge of their own wants and needs.

• A culture and community in which the prevailing narrative of sex is centered around mutual choice and consent.

 

ACTIVE CONSENT

 

• Active Consent means affirmative, honest, conscious, voluntary, sober and ongoing agreement to participate in sexual activity.

• Active Consent means every person involved is responsible for ensuring that there is active consent to engage in each sexual act.

• Active Consent IS NOT silence, lack of protest, lack of resistance or assumed to exist based on a past or current sexual, dating or marital relationship.

 

ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT

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• Enthusiastic Consent is the model of consent that encourages people to make sure the person they're about to have sex with is enthusiastic about the sexual interaction and wants to be there.

• Enthusiastic Consent means that every person involved is participating in sexual acts because they're excited about it, not because they feel pressured into it.

• The following verbal expressions, nonverbal cues and positive body language may be considered signs of Enthusiastic Consent: smiling, nodding, maintaining eye contact, looking relaxed and happy, kissing and touching you back, heavy breathing and moaning, and outright telling you they like it eg. "that feels good" or "don't stop".

• Enthusiastic Consent IS looking for the presence of a "YES" rather than the absence of a "NO".

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ONGOING CONSENT

 

• Consent is ongoing, and CANNOT be implied based on previous history.

• A person may have consented on a previous occasion, but this DOES NOT obligate them to consent in the future.

• Therefore, consent is REQUIRED even in long-term committed relationships, domestic partnerships, civil unions and marriages.

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CONSENT IS REVOCABLE

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This means that you can change your mind at any time, for any reason and the sexual activity MUST stop.

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• Consent is revocable even if you said "YES".

• Consent is revocable even if you waited for a long time.

• Consent is revocable even if you were sure you wanted to.

• Consent is revocable even if the activity was your idea.

• Consent is revocable even if you planned to engage in the activity ahead of time.

• Consent is revocable even if you're worried about disappointing your partner(s).

• Consent is revocable even if you love your partner(s).

• Consent is revocable even if you're married.

• Consent is revocable even if you enjoyed engaging in the activity yesterday.

• Consent is revocable even if you might want to engage in the activity tomorrow.

• Consent is revocable even if it's their birthday.

• Consent is revocable even if you're on vacation.

• Consent is revocable even if you're on your honeymoon.

• Consent is revocable even if it's your anniversary.

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CONSENSUAL SEX

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• Consensual Sex involves active, open communication between parties wishing to engage in sexual behavior.

• Consensual Sex happens when you willingly agree to participate in a specific sexual activity, with a specific person/people, in a specific context.

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CONSENT IS NOT​

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1. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is visibly disengaged.

2. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is visibly upset.

3. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who has explicitly said or implied "NO", "NOT TONIGHT", "STOP" or "LATER".

4. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is crying or fighting back.

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Consent CANNOT be given by individuals who are underage; intoxicated or incapacitated by drugs; and/or unconscious.

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5. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is under the legal age of consent.

6. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is visibly nonresponsive, sleep or passed out.

7. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is staggering drunk, high.

8. Consent IS NOT engaging in sexual activity with an individual who is not aware of their environment.

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If someone agrees to engage in sexual activity under pressure, intimidation or threat, that IS NOT considered consent because it WAS NOT given freely.

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9. Consent IS NOT using pressure, intimidation or threats to coerce someone into having sex.

10. Consent IS NOT pressuring someone into having sex by repeatedly asking them to have sex until they finally say "YES", albeit begrudgingly.

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Unequal power dynamics, such as sexual activity engaged in by an employer/employee or teacher/student, also mean that consent CANNOT be freely given.

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10. Consent IS NOT coercing someone to have sex by abusing your position of authority, trust or power.

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NO ALWAYS MEANS NO, and when in doubt, ASK FIRST!

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11. Consent IS NOT assuming that what an individual is (or is not) wearing is an invitation for you to objectify or sexualize them.

12. Consent IS NOT assuming that an individual flirting with you is an invitation for you to touch them.

13. Consent IS NOT assuming that an individual kissing you is an invitation for anything more.

14. Consent IS NOT assuming that you have permission to engage in a sexual act with an individual because you've done it in the past.

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RAPE

 

Rape is unlawful sexual activity, usually sexual intercourse, carried out forcibly or under threat of injury, against a person's will, with a person who is beneath a certain age, or with a person who is incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception.

 

• Rape involves insertion of an erect penis or an inanimate object into the mouth, vagina or anus.

• Legal definitions of rape may also include forced oral sex and other sexual acts.

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RAPE CULTURE

 

Rape Culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attitudes have the effect of normalizing or trivializing the sexual assault, abuse and/or rape, especially of women.

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SEXUAL ASSAULT

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Sexual Assault occurs when someone touches any part of another person's body in a sexual way, even through clothes, without that person's consent.

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SEXUAL HARASSMENT

 

Sexual Harassment is behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace, professional or social situation.